Resolving Conflict with Grace

Conflict is inevitable in marriage—even in the healthiest relationships. The key isn’t avoiding conflict, but learning how to work through it in a way that strengthens your marriage rather than divides it.

This past week, we took a family trip with our kids, Noah and Cali, along with their boyfriend and girlfriend. It was our first time traveling as a big group to a new place, and while we had an amazing time exploring the California coast, there were moments when we snapped at each other.

Traveling means managing details—packing, IDs, reservations, itineraries—all while making sure everyone is having a great time. As much of a blessing as it is to see new places, stress can creep in too.

When we got home, we knew we needed to address it. We both had our frustrations, and even though conflict can feel messy and uncomfortable, we were willing to work through it because we understand one thing clearly—if the enemy can divide us, he will conquer us. But we refuse to let that happen.

Mark 3:25 says, “And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.”

So we sat down and talked. We found the right timing, controlled our tone, listened to each other, and made a decision to move forward as a team.

Conflict will happen in marriage, but if you can get good at resolving it in a healthy way, you’ll come out stronger every time. Remember—God is on your side, and the enemy will stop at nothing to keep you divided.

3 Quick Action Steps for Resolving Conflict in Marriage:

-Pick the Right Time – Addressing conflict when emotions are high often leads to more hurt. Choose a moment when you’re both calm and can focus on finding a solution.

-Control Your Tone – How you say something is just as important as what you say. Speak with love, not accusation. A gentle response opens the door for healing.

-Unite as a Team – The goal isn’t to "win" the argument—it’s to win back unity. Hear each other out, find common ground, and decide together how to move forward.

Pray Together:

"Lord, we thank You for the gift of marriage. In moments of conflict, help us to pause, seek wisdom, and respond with love. Give us patience to listen, grace to forgive, and humility to put each other first. We refuse to let the enemy divide us. Instead, we choose unity, understanding, and Your peace to guide our marriage. Strengthen our bond and remind us that we are on the same team, always. In Jesus’ name, Amen."

What’s one step you and your spouse take to resolve conflict in a healthy way? Discuss this and work together to overcome conflicts with grace.

With Love,

Armando/Liz